So I send a guy a letter in the mail saying, look, your wife wants a divorce, here are some terms we think are fair (too fair probably). He calls me a "sneaky-ass lawyer" for sending him this in the mail (the horror). He seemed genuinely upset that I hadn't served him, I suppose by process server. Of course I hadn't had him served, I hadn't even filed the case yet.
Anyway, if I were a really dirty sneaky-ass lawyer I'd have gotten service by publication and just sent him the decree when it was done with.